I have mentioned in my last mail that I had ACL like
################ personal ACL #######################
###################### read #######################
access to
dn.regex="cn=([^,]+),ou=personal,ou=contacts,ou=contacts,virtualDomain=([^,]+),dc=suse,dc=ldap$"
by dn.exact,expand="uid=$1,ou=users,virtualDomain=$2,dc=suse,dc=ldap"
read
by * none
######################## write ############################
access to
dn.regex="cn=([^,]+),ou=personal,ou=contacts,ou=contacts,virtualDomain=([^,]+),dc=suse,dc=ldap"
attr=children,entry,@inetOrgPerson,@posixAccount,@mozillaAbPersonAlpha,@evolutionPerson
by
dn.exact,expand="uid=$1,ou=users,virtualDomain=$2,dc=suse,dc=ldap" write
by users none